Make meltdowns merrier

Manage holiday-prompted tantrums with a bit of planning — and a lot of patience.

The holiday season brings lots of joy, but it can also trigger tantrums in our children. We all struggle with changes in our routine, so let’s be understanding with our kids this month.

Though tantrums are a normal part of development, there are some ways to head off those holiday meltdowns:

• Prepare your child. Set clear expectations and boundaries. Let your child know what you expect from them, and hold those boundaries with love and empathy. This might sound something like, “I know you’re going to want to eat all the treats in your stocking right now, but you can choose three pieces.” Be consistent and follow through with your words.

• Give choices and involve your child. Children often throw tantrums because they feel powerless or unheard. You can make them feel more in control and valued by giving them choices and involving them in the decision-making process. For example, you can say, “Do you want to wear the red sweater or the green one?” or “Do you want to help me decorate the cookies or wrap the presents?” Make sure the choices are reasonable and acceptable to you.

• Validate their emotions. Feeling overwhelmed, disappointed and frustrated are all real and normal emotions. Instead of saying, “Don’t be sad; you’re okay,” try, “Wow, you must be feeling so disappointed. I’m right here with you.”

• Be calm and patient. Remember that tantrums are a normal part of childhood development and, as hard as it is, do not take it personally. Kids need your guidance, support and love during this tough time.

This holiday season, let’s help our kids learn how to manage their emotions with our support. And have a happy new year!